Last winter, I wrote a blog post about radical self-love and the power we cultivate when we care for ourselves. At the time, folks were just beginning to quote Audre Lorde’s mandate that self-care is an act of political warfare, and in the face of the then-recent election, her words rang true as a necessary missive in the face of what was to come.
Since then, it seems like there’s been a veritable self-care explosion in our culture. Everyone from the biggest celebrities to our closest relatives tout self-care’s healing powers as they climb into a lavender-scented bath, uncork a bottle of wine, or spend hundreds of dollars on skin care.
In the outpour of media coverage, expensive products, and celebrity culture, it seems that--like all good things--self-care has been co-opted by capitalism and white privilege. That said, no matter how many smart, intersectional critiques I read of the concept and practices of self-care, I still can’t shake an outcry from my gut that says “Who cares if self-care’s corrupted, we need it!”
This became incredibly apparent to me this spring when I took on one too many projects and found myself pretty regularly drowning in some combination of tears, coffee, and panic sweats. I didn’t have money for the self-care products I saw advertised everywhere, but I did have a suspicion that self-care wasn’t really about those things anyway and that I could find self-care resources that would help me get back to some semblance of composure and happiness in my daily life.
What I realized was that when I was at my most busy, broke, and over it, what I needed was a (relatively) quick, simple (and cheap!) way to bring myself back to myself and remember how powerful I could be.
That leads me to this self-care exercise that I wanted to share. It’s half a missive to care for your body and half a mantra to reflect on your mind. It’s entirely meant to remind you that self-care is deeply important and widely accessible, and that in its original forms it’s meant to show us how to resist capitalism and sexism and racism and all the hateful -isms.
Before you get started you’ll want to clear 10-30 minutes and find a seat somewhere comfortable. This could be on the floor in your room, cozy in bed, or even at your desk at work if that’s where you need to bed. Have a journal or notepad nearby if you want to write down your answers to the reflection prompts, then take a few deeps breaths and begin.
Wiggle your forehead.
Rub your earlobes.
Click your tongue.
Roll your shoulders.
Crack your knuckles.
Arch your back.
Tighten your pelvic floor.
Touch your thighs.
Flex your calves.
Point your toes.
Where does it feel good?
Where does it hurt?
Where will it get better?
If you follow the body prompts from beginning to end, you’ll complete a simple body scan that helps you feel some of your (perhaps) more neglected body parts. That said, feel free to choose just one directive you like to bring some body awareness into your day or life.
The reflection prompts are simple questions that can yield profound realizations. You can write down the answers or just carry a question or two in your mind throughout the day. Either method will help you become aware of the multiplicity you hold and the power it contains.
As spring and summer unfold and the year brings more challenges and, hopefully, triumphs, I hope you can hold on to simples exercises like these to cultivate a habit of caring for yourself in a deeper way, and I’d love to hear from anyone who uses these prompts or develops their own!
PS - I first developed these prompts for a workshop for What Women Read in Chicago last month, and I'd love to bring them to a workshop near you soon! Just email me :)
Image by Hannah Smith.