A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about the Bechdel Test. I wanted to think about how the energy I put out into the world impacts what the world throws at me. So I thought that maybe I should think about who I'm talking to and what we talk about (aka I spend too much time talking about men, maybe if I change that, then other things will change too).
After thinking about the three criteria of the Bechdel Test (that a conversation have (1) at least two women in it, (2) who talk to each other, (3) about something besides a man), I wondered whether or not my life would pass the test. How many conversations do I have with other women that are not about men?
I decided the only way to find out was to start keeping track. So the next day I opened a new note in my phone and began a pretty unscientific practice of tracking the conversations I was having. For the most part, after a conversations I would note whether I was in dialogue with a man or a women. And if the conversation did include at least two women, then I noted whether we discussed men or something else.
I have absolutely no training in statistics. That's why these are pseudo-stats, after all. But after about two weeks of tracking, I came to two conclusions:
- I definitely talk to more women than men. (*dancing girls emoji*)
- We do a decent (although maybe not great) job at not just talking about men.
In my last post, I mentioned that of the 6686 films bechdeltest.com only 57.2% pass the test. Of all of the conversations I managed to track in my life, only 47% passed the Bechdel Test. BUT of my conversations with women, 62% of them passed.
So ... you win some, you lose some? The goal isn't to quit talking about men entirely, just to recenter my life around something other than boys. Like my career or my cat or my desire for chocolate. Anything really.
But what about you all? What have you been talking about lately?