Growing up, I used to love Lifetime Movies. Living in a small town, they brought excitement and fun to my life. He did what? She slept with who? It was him that killed everyone? I still have a weak spot for this trashy genre.
This summer, however, my life has suddenly become afflicted with some Lifetime-sized drama. (Ever find out your ex boyfriend was secretly in a long-distance relationship with one of your best friends? Ever discover your boyfriend had another girlfriend he'd been hiding for months?) Yeah. It's real, y'all. And there is nothing exciting or fun about it.
Drama like this breeds anxiety and confusion and a general sense of disillusionment and lack of trust. It's a reminder that even when you're doing your best, life kicks you around sometimes. But the biggest lesson I've learned this summer, is that when life becomes a Lifetime movie, most often you can simply walk away.
When people try to embroil your life in Lifetime-sized drama, they're not the kind of people you need around. And walking away can be hard. It can feel lonely or unsympathetic to say no, but sometimes it's the best thing you can do. Because sometimes saying no to another person or situation is a way of saying yes to yourself and your happiness. So let's say yes to ourselves and walk away from what we need to. Because, I can tell you on the other side of all this, that it feels great.
Movie posters (admittedly not Lifetime movie posters) by Tadanori Yokoo. See more here.